January 24, 2012
 When we talk to people who insist strongly--

“I was taught and I will always believe that marriage

is between a man and a woman,

Try responding like Senator Haugen of the State of 
Washington did recently.
“For me personally, I have always believed in traditional marriage between a man and a woman. “That is what I believe, to this day. But this issue isn’t about just what I believe. It’s about respecting others, including people who may believe differently than I. It’s about whether everyone has the same opportunities for love and companionship and family and security that I have enjoyed.”
For your friends and relatives who are traditional—but reasonable, try responding this way.


January 11, 2012

A Coalition of many Gay-Support groups, national as well as state, have pooled their resources in order to DEFEAT the Anti-Gay Amendment.  Go to  The coordinated campaign will kick off in Mid-January with a launch event in Raleigh and with house parties throughout the state.  The website will tell you WHAT YOU CAN DO!


White House endorses ‘Respect for Marrriage Act

January 11, 2012

Federal Bill Would Repeal DOMA

On the eve of the first ever congressional hearing on proposals to repeal the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), the White House on Tuesday announced President Barack Obama’s endorsement of the Respect For Marriage Act — the bill that would repeal DOMA.

White House spokesman Jay Carney told reporters at Tuesday’s briefing that the president “is proud” to support the Respect For Marriage Act, “which would take the Defense of Marriage Act off the books for once and for all.”

The Respect for Marriage Act, introduced by Sen. Dianne Feinstein (D-Calif.) would repeal DOMA and restore the rights of all lawfully married couples, including same-sex couples, to receive the benefits of marriage under federal law.

Advocates of the repeal hailed the White House announcement.

“It is rare that a White House endorses a bill that has yet to pass first in either the Senate or the House,” said Rick Jacobs, chairman of the gay rights advocacy group Courage Campaign, in a statement. “His support makes clear to all Americans that the Defense of Marriage Act has no place in our society.”

“By supporting this legislation, the President continues to demonstrate his commitment to ending federal discrimination against tens of thousands of lawfully married same-sex couples,” said HRC President Joe Solmonese, in a statement.

On January 11th, the Senate Judiciary Committee was scheduled to hear testimony about the marriage legislation.

The hearing, entitled “S.598, The Respect for Marriage Act: Assessing the Impact of DOMA on American Families,” marks the first ever hearing on the issue of repealing DOMA since its enactment nearly 15 years ago.

DOMA, enacted in 1996, prevents any of the over 1,100 federal rights, benefits and responsibilities of marriage from being afforded to legally married same-sex couples.

Those benefits include Social Security survivor benefits, federal employee health benefits for spouses, protections against spouses losing their homes in cases of severe medical emergencies, the right to sponsor a foreign born partner for immigration, the guarantee of family and medical leave and the ability to file joint tax returns, among many others.


January 3, 2012
from the HufFpost, January 3, by Dominick Scudera

I live the gay lifestyle, the gay lifestyle that is often mentioned by some Republican candidates for president.  For those who are unfamiliar with the lifestyle, this is a typical day:

7:00 a.m.  I wake up, and just as I have done every morning since puberty, I choose to be gay today.  This will come as a great relief to my gay, homosexual, male lover who lies beside me.  Because being gay is a choice, our relationship is a gamble day to day.  Even though we have both chosen to remain gay and to be together every day for the past 16 years, we never take anything for granted.  One of us just might throw in the towel one day and give up the lifestyle.

7:30 a.m.  I take a gay shower and let the gay water rinse off my gay body.

8:00 a.m.  I have a gay breakfast of cereal with milk, and a good, strong, gay cup of coffee.  I am fortified for another day of ruining the fabric of American society.

9:00 a.m.  I start my morning shift as a gay hospital volunteer.  The hospital is not gay, just me.  The patients are mostly normal people.  But it is OK.  The hospital has a rule that all volunteers must sanitize their hands before meeting with patients.  This is to avoid spreading germs, but I think that hand sanitizer is also effective in stopping the transfer of my gayness to other people.

12:00 p.m.  I return home, eat a gay lunch and take my gay dogs for a walk.  Well, I am not sure if the dogs are actually gay.  I have heard it said that homosexuality does not exist in the animal kingdom because it is not natural, so chances are that the dogs are not gay.  But because they live with me and my gay, homosexual, male lover, they are perceived by others to be gay.  I would feel bad about this, but the fact is that I need these dogs.  They are the closest that I will ever come to having actual children, because, as everyone knows, gays should not (and cannot) have children.  I push this out of my mind as I walk the dogs gaily through the neighborhood.

1:00 p.m.  I teach classes at a small, prestigious, liberal arts college.  I am a gay college professor.  The college is not gay, just me.  But some may view the college as way too liberal, because “sexual orientation” is listed within the college’s anti-discrimination policy.  This basically means that the college turns a blind eye as I infect the impressionable students with my gayness on a daily basis.  I do not teach anything particularly gay in my classes. I am a theater professor, which, for all intents and purposes, is gay to most people, anyway.

6:00 p.m.  My gay, homosexual, male lover returns home from his job.  Luckily, he has chosen to be gay today, too, so we can sit down and have a nice, relaxing gay dinner together.  We are aware that our relationship is ripping at the seams of our heterosexual neighbors’ marriages, but we choose to ignore this.  If we were normal people, the guilt might weigh on us heavily, but we are gay, after all, so we do not have consciences.  We eat in peace.

8:00 p.m.  We go gay bowling at our Suburban Gay Bowling League.  There are quite a lot of us homosexuals who gather each week to bowl at our local bowling alley.  This makes the normal suburban bowlers uncomfortable, but we do not care.  Some of them are openly hostile to us.  The more polite ones just stare at us.  It makes us feel like we are caged, exotic animals in a zoo.  But we count ourselves lucky because the alley owners have sold out.  They allow us to bowl here because they are desirous of our ample, disposable gay income.  Ah, the almighty dollar!  The owners show mercy on the normal suburbanites, though, by putting a buffer zone of two vacant lanes between our gay league and them.  We are respectful of this line, which we call the “edge of gayness,” and do not cross it.  We try to tone down our gaiety and frivolity by focusing intently on our bowling.  The normal suburbanites never venture past their side of the line, either, because it would be unimaginable to them to interact with us.

11:00 p.m.  My gay, homosexual, male lover and I collapse from the weariness of the gay lifestyle we have been living today.  All of this subversive loving, volunteering, working, eating, playing and socializing is exhausting.  Some say the gay lifestyle is self-enslavement, but we just cannot think about that now.  Before we fall asleep, we each take out our personal, leather-bound copies of The Gay AgendaThe Gay Agenda is our Bible.  We do not look at the real Bible because we are gay and therefore have no religion or morality.  We read and strategize how we can best destroy American society tomorrow.  Sharing a good, hardy, gay laugh, we each fall into a sound, gay sleep.